As I reread my last post about gender inequality, lack of education and sexual taboos or suppressions in India today, I realised I was being somewhat of a hypocrite. Although this very much exists within our society, it very much exists within my world as well and to segregate myself from it would be wrong and quite honestly a lie. Here I try to propagate education, gender equality and knowing and loving your body to a greater extent, but am I really practicing what I preach? Hmmm….I don’t think so! As education might not be much of the problem with me, lack of the ‘right’ education certainly is. I then believe myself to be an educated fool. But aren’t we all?
While gender inequality is clear and boldly slapped within interior and exterior walls of traditional families and rural communities, it slowly and creepily resides within us all in some way or the other. So now I ask:
Why do I feel inhibited from attending a Puja or walking into any religious gathering when I’m on my menstrual cycle?
Why does my voice go into a whisper when I inform my trainer its “that time of the month”?
Why do my gynaecologist and I feel like we are entering uncomfortable territory when we approach the topic of my current and past sexual status?
Why is it that I or the women I know, still don’t find it necessary to have a Pap smear, breast examination or a Mammogram on a timely bases? Actually I would like to rephrase, why is it that I nor my female counterparts knowing fully well the necessity of basic precancerous tests, still ignore the procedure?
At the end of the day as much as we can stand and point fingers, write the most articulated words and give the most compelling and persuasive speeches, we need to first look within. Because as clichéd as it sounds, actions do speak louder than words. Your actions are contagious, not your words. If you make it a point to educate yourself and actually follow through by walking the talk, then so will your family, friends and most probably everyone who comes in contact with you.
If you see your reflection somewhere between these lines and can resonate with the words, share this post amongst your people and get them to do the same.
If you really want to see a change then be it!